I LOVE THIS BOOK! I was completely shattered after the break up of a 10 year relationship. I read this book (after we had separated) and quickly realized who had the problem, and it isn't ME. Do you wonder why he sits back on his butt while you get treated like crap and try everything to salvage the relationship? Do you wonder how could he possibly treat you so poorly when he says he loves you? Do you think he's seeing someone else? Are you doing all you can to make it better, but he's not responding and acts like it's YOU who thinks something's wrong - not him? Are you ignoring your inner instinct, that woman's intuition that's saying "WARNING!" GET THIS BOOK. NOW.Even though I got it after I gave that jerk the heave-ho, it would have been invaluable to have while I was still in the relationship wondering what the heck was going wrong. I would have left a lot sooner. I wish I could meet the author and give her a great big hug of thanks. She speaks to you in love, but cuts through the crap, and tells the TRUTH of the horrors of infidelity, and the views and attitudes of cheating men. It's directed to and written for women and their cheating husbands or boyfriends.It's a whole new point of view for women who look at their partners with undying love and hope - by the end of the book, you WILL see things in a new light. You'll know how he looks at you, and what value you are to him. You'll know how to cut through his lies and get to the truth. Most of all, you'll learn that we have to take responsibility for our happiness, and that means if you're with a man who continually cheats on you and promises things will change, you need to take the power back and recognize a liar for what he is and MOVE ON. The most startling point I think she made, is that women are being conditioned by dysfunctional men - meaning, we are so used to trying to salvage our relationships and thinking that WE are the problem, we actually think all men are like our partner. NO! In fact, NOT all men are cheaters, liars, abusers and disrespectful!!!I'll end with a few points from the book. One, love is not a feeling; it's a behavior. And two, love means respect. Cheating to and lying straight to your wife's face means they think it's okay. They are okay with disrespecting you! If they actually loved you, the thought of disrespecting you wouldn't be acceptable to them. What you two have together isn't love. It's hard to see that, but not all men are like this. Get away; stop wasting your lives with someone who cares nothing about you! They feel no responsibility or sense of obligation to you or the family. Find someone who thinks it's a privilege to come home to you, and sit back and watch your ex give some other poor woman the same crappy treatment he gave you.