As a therapist who works with both individuals and couples, I am often asked for book recommendations about sexuality. One of the first books I recommend to women struggling with low sexual self confidence and low sexual desire is "Heart and Soul of Sex". There are a LOT of books out these days devoted to the "how tos" of sex- but not that many deal with the MEANING of sex, particularly for women. Gina has designed a brilliant model of sexuality that incorporates all aspects of a person's life, heart, mind, body and spirit- the ISIS model. She suggests that truly mind blowing sex takes place in the convergence of these four domains not just in the domain of the body and provides a series of exercises for women to explore each of these domains. Her work moves us beyond hormone therapy and Viagra as the solutions for a sinking sex life. The focus is on personal self awareness and sexual self acceptance as individuals and partners explore the vast and creative realm of pleasure and pleasuring. I love her grid of the vast array of erotic zones of the body and how many wonderful things we can do there in the exploration of what truly pleasures us. The approach moves us away from the antiquated performance model based on orgasm as the goal, which puts women into a category of sexually dysfunctional all too easily. Gina's thinking is holistic, but it is also founded on solid research from over 3800 respondents who talked about what is really going on for them in the midst of their most meaningful sexual experiences. When women tell me they don't want to have sex, I ask them what kind of sex they are having, and I am not surprised that they aren't interested in it! I recommend Gina's book and her paradigm begins to free them to own their sexuality and to begin to explore what they really want. When women begin to own and define their own sexual experience and chose good partners who want to love and play at that level, problems of desire dissapear quickly.