One of the deepest, most profound books I ever read. I just finished it - it changed my way of seeing myself in a relationship forever and helped me understand that it was ME pushing others away - and not the other way (which I thought most of the time they were doing).It takes a lot to open up, to truly open up and love with all you have - to go beyond your inner shells, to love yourself so deeply that you inner light can shine into the world - without a doubt.I am so happy that I read this book - and this is, by the way, one of the books I read through without reading another one next to it. It caught me once and never let me go... of course my ego sometimes said to me: that's not true, the other person has just as much to do with it all - as you have - but in the end, my ego go quieter and quieter and was finally silent, the further I got into this book.I especially love the letters at the beginning from each chapter.David Deida has a deep and very beautiful way of writing. I am lucky that I found it - it's one of the best guide books I ever read (and, yes, I am VERY honest: I read many...)